I have caught a few conversations lately in the media, in regards to celebrities in particular, but I am aware regular people also experience the same pressure society gives around children.
We all know it starts with: 'Why are you still single?'; Have you found anyone special yet?'; 'Don't worry s/he is out there and will appear when you least expect it'.
It continues with: 'You have been together for a long time, when are you getting married?' 'Do you think s/he will propose soon?'
Then escalates to: 'When are you two having children?' 'Are you planning a family soon?' 'Do you have children?' 'The clock is ticking.. you are not getting any younger you know'. Once you are of a certain age, the confusion and strange looks are common if you do not agree or can't produce the babies everyone expects. Why does everyone assume it is always as simple as: 'we want children = let's have children?'
As if the pressure from others is not already enough before you have children. Then it continues and even escalates after you have had children. As in the article below you have a father defending why he isn't having a boy and only has daughters.
Are we really still not satisfied that we have a bunch of healthy children if they are only one gender. Can we really still be disappointed and not feel let down. Do we have no gratitude for the gifts of life we have already been granted.
I know so many of you, my readers, would not even care what sex their baby was if they were fortunate enough to even be pregnant or carry a healthy baby full-term.
As always it is all perspective but let us not force our perspectives on others.
Blessings until next time.
Narelle Hudson xx